I know I'm about a million of these blog posts behind, but I'm up a bit early and so I thought I'd knock some out on a day which will mostly be spent traveling back to the West Coast. I apologize if some of the pages seem like variations on a theme, but I'll try to make each as original as possible!
Trust is a big one for me--as someone who, in the past was entirely
too trusting and believed in people (each person started at 100%), it
took me a remarkably long time to realize that one shouldn't so easily
place trust in all people--that it is a valuable commodity and should be
used, if not sparingly, then at the very least, discerningly.
for me, is completely subjective. I choose who, when, how much, and
what to trust in my life--and it's a fine balance these days where
privacy is no longer an option, but intimacy still very much is. The
people I know and trust are privy to the much deeper parts of my life:
the worries, the embarrassing jokes, the struggles, the family, and the
other things that I won't let come out at first glance. Intimacy in
itself carries a large weight of trust--mostly because it involves a
large amount of choice: you need to trust that the people you choose to
be intimate with (physically or otherwise) are going to be what you need
them to be. You want to trust that the information that you get in the
outside world is accurate and honest. You hope that the trust that
others have in you is not misplaced (especially when it comes to giving
It's an interesting word--"trust"--and
often implies an off-kilter balance, an assumption that the person that
you are choosing to believe, or the situation that you are estimating
about will work itself out. For such a state of imbalance, I try to be
careful with the way I distribute its weight--and make sure that the
heaviest pieces are heard and held by the strongest supports.